Good parents love and take care of
their children. Good children love and respect their parents. Why? What does a
mother owe to young whiny short people whom she already carried for nine months
only to have them tear out of her and grow up to spend all her money? Why does
a father bail his sons out of jail every time they get caught smashing windows
at the old library?
The
evolutionary reason for parents putting up with their children is known as the
theory of kin selection. In his article about family love and impartiality,
Yong Li notes that Confucian teachings allow a man to cover-up his son’s crimes,
even though it is usually immoral to cover-up a person’s crime, because
“recently more and more scholars of Confucianism advocate evolutionary theory
to understand the family-oriented ethics in the Confucianist tradition” (Li
243). He refers to kin selection as “the
process by which behavior of individuals decreases their own fitness but
increases that of their kin” because “kin selection assumes that organisms are
vehicles for copying of genes” (243). So by this theory, people care for their
children because these offspring carry parts of themselves, and without their
children, their legacy would die. Every person is like the monarch of great
country, making sure the heirs are skilled enough to obtain the throne. If they
merely banished disappointing princes and princesses, then no one is left to
take over the kingdom once the ruling king or queen die, and everything they
created during their rule falls to ruin and chaos.
This family has low fitness and most likely
will not live to carry on their genetic heritage
to future generations.
However,
there is more to family than carrying a legacy of good genes. Family members
are supposed to empathize with each other, and “empathy is an evolved,
biological capacity of the human species, and probably of other mammalian
species, such as the apes” (Li 247). On top of that, “The cultivation of this
capacity involves inter-subjective interaction, which may or may not require
the presence of the family” (247). The ability to empathize makes a person more
fit in human populations. How many times have people watched the news where
some young man or woman has committed an atrocity, fallen from social graces,
and thereby ruined their lives? How many times has the news explained that the
person came from a broken home with ill-fitted or absent parents?
Parents
have a duty to raise their children properly because they need to give those
children the means of developing empathy so they will be fit to survive socially
in human society. Parents also have the incentive to put in the effort and make
the necessary sacrifices to raise them right, because then their genes will be
passed on by these descendants.
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